How to be thirty! Realize that you don't have to put up with emotionally unavailable and dishonest guy even when that's your childhood crush. Realize that the women that guy was with was not your enemy, just another victim of not loving yourself enough and not having enough self respect to walk away from the wrong relationship after being treated poorly by the guy. Realize that you have to use your head as well as your heart when choosing a partner. Realize that you have the power to start again after painful breakups. Realize that you have the power to hurt others and own up to your mistakes as well as realize that you have the power to protect yourself from being hurt over and over again. Realize that being emotionally vulnerable and saying sorry is a very mature and right thing to do. Realize that you need to take responsibilities for your life instead of blaming someone else. Realize that the right guy has no agenda and may be having been by your side the whole freaking time.